The Addiction Dilemma
"A good person who gives in to a bad person
is a muddied spring, a polluted well."
The host of late night television show made a joke about an addiction – it is a common theme among comedians. His punch line was, “And, you know what that is? Well, that’s called men!” The crowd erupted into laughter and applause.
I turned to my wife Kathy and said, “Yes, that’s right. That’s men. They laugh about it, but we see the ruined lives, marriages, and wounding of the innocents because of this addiction. It’s no laughing matter; it’s a tragedy.”
Pornography is just one of the addictions devastating relationships, families, and individuals on many levels. The current addiction crisis muddies families, homes, schools, communities, and societies around the world.
As a pastor, opioid, alcohol, and porn remained unspoken addictions of the church. Over 20 years in Africa showed addiction is not the dwelling place of a single culture or country.
We all are being eaten alive by the Addiction Dragon. Destroyed families, lives, and innocents mark the dragon’s victims.
Perhaps, no verse in the Bible sums up the reality of porn-living better than Proverbs 25:26, “When a good person gives, in to the wicked, it’s like dumping
garbage in a stream of clear water.” (CEV)
You and Your Dragon
The first time when you meet your dragon, the dragon provides companionship. In the beginning, in infancy, most animals appear as great pets. Dragons are like that too. Young dragons are not that much trouble, not that much trouble at all; at first.
They are easily kept hidden away and taken out when you want to play. They are so small you barely notice. They understand your needs. A newly acquired dragon is there for you. It heeds your every call. Controllability is a major advantage of owning a young dragon. You can take it out and put it away at the most convenient of times. A young dragon provides many benefits.
Muddying Your Well
However, waters from this well will create a ferocious thirst impossible to quench. The more one drinks, the more insatiable one’s desires become. As one drinks its poison, it seeps into the very fabric of a person and changes a personality.
As one yields, one falls and compromises integrity. Addiction muddies a person sometimes beyond recognition. Ultimately, a person doesn’t recognize who he or she has become. Worse yet, a person doesn’t understand the process transforming them into the person they despise.
Just last week at a conference, a woman shared her story. She showed a picture of her with her family. Four beautiful children. She looked up into my eyes and sighed, “They are gone now.”
Several years back this mom met the dragon of Crystal Meth. One snort and she was hooked.
Finding Better Wells
The challenge to slaying your dragon is leaving the horrid water of addiction's well. Finding healthy wells to drink from marks the way forward. More on this later.
Just My Thoughts,
Edited excerpt taken from Boundaries – 5 Steps to Getting Your Life Back by Don Mingo.
Don was born in North Minneapolis, Minnesota. Having served twenty-two years in South Africa as missionaries with his wife Kathy, and eight years pastoring in the United States, he shares unique perspectives about life, family, relationships, and ministry.